Family Fun

We really did have a good time (which would explain why we missed the fact that we were under a tornado warning). There was lots of food to eat, gifts to open, and the girls finally got me up and doing Just Dance! Which is probably a good thing since I hear through the grapevine that this will be a requirement of all PW"s attending the Armed And Dangerous Retreat in Nashville! Speaking of which...do you all realize we are only three weeks away from the event? Have you ladies got those cute pj's yet?

Wild Ride!

Saturday the girls and I traveled to my hometown to celebrate my birthday with some very special women in my life. When I first started planning this event it was really just a chance for me to thank some very special women who have an impact on my life. I didn't know at the time how much this trip would effect me! There were at least four generations of women in my moms home, including my 90 year old aunt.

Everything was going as planned until my cousin called to say that she didn't think she would make it to the celebration because she was concerned about the weather. I let her know that all was well on our end and that it would be safe for her and my aunt to travel, but that if she was not comfortable coming then  I understood.

Those that were in attendance were having a great time and we did not think much about the weather even when Marc made it a point to call me. Anyone who knows my husband knows this is unusual because most of the time if I am with my family he is ok while I am gone. I don't remember a lot about the conversation at the time but briefly recall him mentioning the weather report on one of local TV stations.

Anyway, long story short he was trying to warn us that there was a tornado headed in our direction and he really just want to warn us to know in advance. By now everyone knows that at least two tornadoes touched down in my hometown. The Middle School I attended as a child was heavily damaged and at least three people were killed in the storm. My home church was not hit but the second tornado apparently landed near there. Thankfully my aunts home, along with my grandparents home was spared. Its been a few days since then and I'm still amazed that my family came out of this ok, while people around us were loosing their livelihood and in some cases their lives.

People in our local communities have not wasted anytime stepping up to volunteer or provide supplies. Those of us who are alumni (including several who who don't even live in the community any longer) are also trying to do our part. Marc and I are heading to Gloucester on Friday to take school supplies for the students and teachers who have been displaced from their school for the rest of the year. I have even got messages from a few friends who would like to send supplies along with me. There were so many volunteers showing up in the county that they have had to turn some away. Can you imagine? I'm so proud of my small town and the people of that community.

The members of WABC have been wonderful also. Marc and I started receiving text messages and phone calls early Sunday morning, including one lady who was in the hospital recovering from surgery!  Most of them were calling out of concern for my mom (one deacon even offered to get a crew together to go and get her) but soon the concern turned towards me and the girls when they realized we were there also. I had to get up in church that morning to thank them and to thank God for keeping us safe.  I am so grateful for God's grace and mercy over my life and of my family. My sister and my cousin were both driving back home from the party at the time that the tornadoes were on the ground and thankfully made it back to their homes safe and sound. Four days later I am still praising him.

Happy Birthday to ME!!!!!

By now everyone knows I celebrated my 47th birthday yesterday. Thanks again for all of the tweets, fb messages and phone calls. You all made my day extra special. Sooo...you know how much I love party planning (almost if not more so then fashion, but not Disney...lol)? Anyway, on tomorrow I will be celebrating my birthday (yes, I'm determined to celebrate the entire month some how) at my moms home with the women in my life who have help make me the woman I am today. I really did not want a big celebration but wanted to spend the day acknowledging them and thanking them for being my support system. I promise to share pics, but in the meantime I thought I would give you a glimpse into the decorations that my daughters and I will be setting up on Saturday. I'm soo excited about using my two favorite colors (don't they look good together). The necklace are courtesy of my friend Kelli. It amazes me that she actually took time out of her busy, hectic life to create such a beautiful gift for me and my guest! And yes, I'm still going with the Disney theme. My mom rolled her eyes when she got the invite which features the Disney Princess Tiana (they don't call me the Disneyqueen for nothing people..lol ). But the plan is to do a Disney themed birthday party with an adult twist. :) I have all of the ideas in my head so I will let you all know how it pans out in reality! LOL

Nicki's NY Trip

Nicki just got back from NY. I got to catch a glimpse of her on the screen while Hoda and Kathie Lee were filming at Rockefeller Center. The next day she attended the Wendy Williams show and ended up asking the question of the day (granted it ended up being scripted....and we had to explain it to some family, friends and yes even some church members). That's my Nicki, never a dull moment. She got to see Bill Cosby while he was being interviewed by the Today Show, and then saw Sinbad not once but twice (he was making the rounds from the Today Show to Wendy's Show promoting his new show). She even got stopped by a film crew from the Netherlands on the street! She spent some time with some good friends, including a friend from college and ended her NY adventure hanging out with make-up artist and youtube gurus at IMATS. The last picture is of her talking to one of the horses on the street. The child is like some type of animal whisperer. I kid you not, animals (and boy babies) flock to her...lol. She says it was her best trip ever, and is planning to go again soon. I'm actually suppose to tag along the next time which should make for an interesting trip in itself!

My Girls Got Talent!

I am proud of all of my kids. Granted at this moment TJ is not using all of his God given talents ( he does some great artwork ). But that's another story for another time! The good thing is that he is a good kid (actually he's a 27 year old man), a good son and he does hold down a steady job! LOL So I can't complain too much. Marc says all the time how blessed we are to have kids who have stayed out of trouble and thankfully healthy.

Now back to the girls. Quisha is a full time teacher but somehow she has been able to create her own business on the side making and selling baby booties. Not sure where it came from because mom can't even knit a square! And then there is Nicki! The girl has so many irons in the fire I'm not sure how she does it (which may expalin why she is usually out like a light by 9:30). She is a Mass Communications major, works full time, does modeling, singing and is a make up artist on the side. She recently attended her first ever IMATS which is a make up trade show (got to say I like having my own make up person). Nicki also acts and the film she was an extra in will be out this month on DVD!

They all live at home at the moment but one day I know they will be on their own, have their own families and will be living their own life. My home will be a bit empty, it will be way too quiet around here and Marc and I will have to find new ways to keep busy...so for now I will just enjoy the time I have with them, because we all know they grow up soo fast and every minute you have with them is a special moment in time.

Shoe Haul!

I have been scouting the stores for shoes for a few special occasions. I'm still looking for the perfect tan pair and the hunt is still on for a pair of pink pumps for a couple of suits and dresses I own. The brown sandals are from Target. Originally I paid $30.00 for them but when I opened up the Sunday paper the next day I noticed that they were on sale for $20.00 so back to the store I went. The gray ones I found online at Urbanog. Originally I picked out a pair in pink but before they shipped they sent me word that the pink pair had a spot on them. They offered them to me at a discount, but I exchanged them for the gray pair instead. Then just before the gray pair shipped out they told me they had some imperfections on them. They even sent pictures so that I could decide. Again they offered them at a discount and this time I gave them the ok to ship them. They ended up costing me $15.00 plus the cost of shipping. The black pair I picked up at JCPenney's. They were originally $60.00 but I caught them on sale for $40.00. I also picked up a purse to go with them. I will share the entire outfit in about a month when I wear it to speak at our Women's Day program. I have to admit its been a long time since I brought this many pair of shoes, but since I have been overhauling our closet I have been able to make room for a few new pair. But as you can see I never pay retail for anything (unless its a really special occasion)!

Sunday Best 4/10/2011

I was tempted to wear pants today, but Marc's bestfriend was speaking at our morning service and I worried that his wife would wear a dress because she thought I would. She knows me better then I thought because she wore pants! LOL

This is not the first time we have done this. When they were stationed in Hawaii Marc and I got the opportunity to visit them and we knew in advance that their services were very casual, but because Glen knew that Marc wore suits to church they dressed up to make us more comfortable. The only problem is that we dressed casual to fit in with them.

They did again when Marc and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Again they dressed up because they just knew Marc and I would be dressed up for such a special occasion. But because I had picked a tropical theme for our anniversary we were wearing attire to fit the theme.

I honestly don't have a problem with dressing up. And if its a really special occasion that is formal I am willing to go the extra mile when I step out with my very style conscience husband. I just don't want women who walk into our church for the first time to feel like they have to "dress up" like the "First Lady" in order to be accepted by Christ. Because lets face it, its not about us its about him. There is nothing wrong with fashion, but never let it hinder or stop you from establishing a relationship with Christ Jesus! God does not care what you are wearing on the outside, he cares about whats on the inside! It's the heart that matters.

Sunday Best 4/3/11

You can find my Sunday Best post here.

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the PW)!

Its been like forever since I did a Sunday Mind Dump. But there is a lot going on so I have plenty to share.

1) My newest obsession is all things related to Fashion. Its actually not new, but its been a while since I have indulged in that particular passion. I went to school for Fashion Merchandising after high school and in my younger days I dreamed of becoming a buyer for a major dept. store like Macy's in New York (back then that was the only Macy's you thought of when someone said Macy's...lol).

2) I've already started packing (at least mentally in my head for the Nashville trip). Hence the sudden surge in shoe and clothing purchase.

3) The week I come back from Nashville I will be speaking at our Annual Women's Day celebration. Then that afternoon we will head over to a local school in Norfolk to hear a gospel group in concert. The concert is being sponsored by WABC and our beautiful daughters Nicki and Quisha will be the opening act for the event before the Scott's get up to sing!

4) It still looks like our trip to Florida is a go, not just for my friends marriage renewal but our niece from Alabama who was recently crowned Miss.Outstanding Teen Alabama 2011 will be in Florida for the Miss Teen America pageant!

5) And just in case you missed it I will be celebrating the big 47 in a few weeks. I decided to have a girls get together at my mom's home. I'm actually shocked at the fact that its so close. I need to get my planning butt in gear!

6) To get in the spirit of the occasion (whose theme just happens to be "Princess And The Frog" ) Nicki and I picked up the Disney movie this afternoon for inspiration. We also picked up Tangled which was allusive on Saturday, which lead to this particular purchase. Which led us back to Target today when the very same shoes went on sale (so my $29.99 shoes end up costing me $19.99).

7) Nicki will be heading to NY soon. She decided to get her hair braided this past week, which took six hours by the way and according to her hurt (guess I will stick to my own hair or get extensions if I want to whip my hair back and forth....lol ). She has already warned me that I would not be able to handle it (especially with my headaches). She did this so that she would not have to worry about upkeep while on her mini vacation. And since she is much cuter then her mom, I thought I would feature her as part of my first ever Sunday Best! Quisha wasn't with us today but she promised to let me take pics of her shoes in the future.

8) Honestly I could not update with a fashion post everyday like some of these girls do (even if I had somewhere to go and had something cute to wear). Its just too much pressure (it took way to long to come up with my outfit today). And frankly as much as I love fashion its just not that serious (at least for me). Frankly the real fashion guru in our house is my husband. The man has more accessories then I do (not to mention shoes, suits, shirts and ties...lol).

9) Speaking of Marc.... I'm so proud of the messages Marc has been speaking on the last few weeks. He is really committed to diversity in our church and his messages have been reflective of that. Today he talked about The All Inclusive Church! The all inclusive church is a hospital for sinners and not a museum for saints! The all inclusive church doesn't let tradition get in the way of the truth of God's word. The all inclusive church has everything to do with Jesus Christ!

10) We had a new member join today, and three children who had not been to WABC in a while came back today because they said they had missed church and especially children's church. You don't know what that did for my heart and Marc was cheesing when they came in. Now that's what church is really about!

Sunday Best

If you follow me on twitter you may have noticed my twitpics on Sunday morning are about my Sunday attire ( I started it just for the fun of it). So I have been thinking about adding a Sundays Best as a feature on my blog. Not for any particular reason, just because I have been obsessed with fashion blogs lately and have noticed that very few of them highlight women with curves over the age of 40! Actually I found one fashion blog for women over 40 and lets just say...I don't think I would wear many of the things they wear ( I'm not even sure my mom would wear some of the clothing they suggested). Who knows maybe I can get the girls to participate every once in a while. Actually the real clothes horse in our home is Marc, but don't tell him I said that! LOL

I'm also thinking about doing my Sunday Night Rap ups, or Monday Morning Ramblings. Now that life has slowed down a bit and I'm not traveling back and forth to my moms each weekend I have a little more time to concentrate on the old blog. :)

Last Day to Sign Up!

We are only weeks away from the first ever Leading and Loving It PW retreat! That's the good news. The bad news is that today is your last day to register for the event! Registration ends tonight at midnight. Lori and the entire L&L It team are looking forward to hanging out with all of you lovely ladies. So what are you waiting for? Get over to the Leading and Loving It website and register!

Monday Morning Ramblings (beware its a long update)!

We had a crazy busy weekend (nothing new right). I got a call on Tuesday from our Pastor and his wife that they would be near our area for the week visiting their daughter and grandchildren. And since Marc takes Fridays off to hang with his lovely wife....yours truly we agreed a road trip to NC was a must. Only problem was that I forgot (for a minute) that the youth were having a Spaghetti Slurp and Karaoke night on the same day. Oh, and for some reason I forgot that I had a 8:30 AM hair appointment that morning. Talk about scatterbrained! Anyway, long story short we met them half way between the beach and North Carolina for lunch (after my hair appointment mind you) and then after a lovely time of visiting and eating we hightailed it back to VA just in time for the event at WABC!

The youth did a really great job and everyone there had a laughing good time. They even got me to get up on stage and sing! Saturday morning we hit the ground running again at a surprise birthday party for a friend of my mom's. Actually I grew up knowing Betty, and her sister Helen and I go back to the sandbox literally. We went to elementary, middle and high school together and when I lived with my grandparents we actually caught the bus together each morning.

After we left the birthday party we stopped by the church just long enough to hear all of the details of the Cake/Scripture walk the deaconess ministry was holding. From the pics they gave me looks like their was some fierce competition going for a coconut cake. Some people even ended up on the ground fighting for a chance to win!

Speaking of birthdays and cakes it you have not heard by now I will be celebrating my 47th birthday next month. As I was trying to decide what to do this year I knew I wanted the celebration to center around hanging out with the women in my life (mostly my family ) who have been there for me, and have influenced me, and basically help to mold me into the women I am today. So right now I am in the planning stages for the big bash. LOL And since I'm a theme girl I decided since they don't call me the Disneyqueen for nothin why not have a Disney Princess and the Frog birthday party (grown up style)! So 14 of the closest women in my family will be showered with food, obscene desserts, and gifts at my moms home in a few weeks. I can't wait to show you pictures. I have been stalking every party planning site I can get my hands on. You should see the parties people are having!

Ok now on to my latest obsession. And that's clothing. I have always loved fashion (actually went to school for Fashion Merchandising, and wanted to be a buyer for Macy's in New York). Instead I got married and had three kids and became the personal shopper for them. LOL So thanks to my daughter Nicki I am now a youtube junkie. I have been checking out some fashion blogs to see what the latest and greatest is in the fashion world, and started purging my closet to make room for some new clothing and shoes. Who knows you might even see a few fashion post pop up again.

So thats what is happening in my life. What is everyone else up to? LOL

What A Weekend!

Its been such a crazy start to the year that anytime we get a chance to just hang out with family and friends laughing is a good day. Marc had two services on Sunday then immediately following that we rushed home to change clothes so that we could go hang out with our Alabama family who are here for the week on spring break. Cass and I have been friends for over 14 yrs. Our girls grew up together, and her youngest child is our goddaughter. Last week her daughter M'ia was crowned Miss Alabama Outstanding Teen 2011. So of course we all had to get pics with her and get an autograph!

All of the ladies were there, minus our girl Peggy and her family but we still managed to have a good time. Actually I think the men did way more talking then the women. And just watching how grown up all of our girls have become was the best way to end a very busy day. Not sure whats next on the dress sale list for 2011 (we love parties and get-togethers) but I'm so grateful for the friendships. These ladies have been there through thick and thin. In good times (and in some really bad times). They are prayer partners, soul sisters (and only a few hold that title). In all of our years of being together not once have any of us had a falling out with each other, there is never any drama, we just love, laugh and live together. And believe me I know how rare that is among women, so I cherish them and this special connection that we have.

Sunday Night Ramblings

We are at the final stretch of my mom being homebound after nearly two months of being confined to her home with a fractured ankle. You can tell she is ready to get back to life as she knows it, probably just as much (if not more) as my sister and I are ready to get back to a regular routine (not that our lives have ever been normal or routine).

 I had to leave early this week so that I could go back home and prepare to host (for the first time ever) our monthly Interdenominational Ministers Wives and Ministers Widows of Tidewater meeting. Once a month the ministers wives in our community get together for a time of fellowship, food and to discuss concerns of PW's. Last month we held our annual banquet which is our largest fundraiser. Proceeds from this event go towards cancer research. Next month we will be handing out lunch in an area that is known as a gathering spot for the homeless. Last year several of the women from the organization handed out home kits to a Habitat for Humanity family.

Most of the woman are older then me but I love being around them because they encourage me to keep moving forward (plus I love to hear their stories). To say that I was a nervous wreck was an understatement (I forgot my camera, which if you know me is soo not me). But the dinner was a big success do in part because of the help of some really special ladies who served, and served with passion! The one thing that I did not have to worry about that night was food, or the service. The ladies from WABC rocked (three of them are part of our Women's Ministry team, so I knew they could handle it and they did)! Marc even got to hang out with a few of the husbands.

 This organization is special to me for several reasons....my late grandmother was a member of a different chapter of the organization, along with my godmother, but I can honestly say that I am a member because of the late First Lady of our home church. Sister Taylor invited me to attend a meeting nearly 7 years ago and because of her encouragement I joined and have been a part of the organization every since then. I am so thankful for the role models I had before I became a PW, and I'm thankful today for the Pastor Wives I have connected with since then! If the sun comes out tomorrow I will try to post some pictures with the "details" of the event on my facebook page (you know all of the fluff stuff..like my wardrobe, the table centerpieces, favors and food...lol). If you are part of a Pastor/Ministers' Wives Organization or group I would love to hear about it.

*The picture above is of my mom's new house (and my home away from home for the last two months... lol).

Putting My Traveling Shoes On!

I'm soo excited to be heading to Nashville ! In my wildest imagination I never thought those words would come out of my mouth. You all know I am not a country gal at heart! LOL
Then last week I got the best news in the whole wide world! Marc will be officiating at my soul sister's Anniversary renewal in August. And it may be held at my favorite place in the whole wide world! Its been five years since we were in Florida! If this happens I am going to be one happy princess!
Have you noticed that all of my traveling lately has taken place in the summer? What's up with that? Its not as if we have small kids anymore! I may be headed back to Washington DC again this year, but our bi-annual trip to Bama may be put on hold because a few days ago my girlfriend informed us they are heading our way for spring break. Nicki has been trying to get me to go on a New York trip with her. Only time will tell if that one pans out. And my mom has been hinting at wanting me to research a girls getaway to Amish County, PA. Looks like 2011 may be just as interesting as 2010 for this ole traveling soul (even considering the fact I have lived out of a suitcase for the last few months)!

So what are your summer traveling plans? Better yet who's meeting me in Nashville in May?

Ok, I admit it...I'm Flawed (and apparently very spoiled)!

I'm willing to admit it. I'm a flawed human being! There I said it! Yesterday morning I woke up grouchy, angry, sad, frustrated and downright moody. It was Valentine's Day and unlike a lot of people its one of those crazy holidays I actually look forward to celebrating. Not for the reasons many think about. For me its no longer about the gifts (notice I said its no longer about the gifts). For me February has always been an exciting time. Marc's birthday falls a few days before Valentines Day and over the years its been a chance to extend the love fest sort of speak. In nearly 28 years together we have only been separated this time of year once! And that was during Desert Storm when he was shipped overseas with the army to fight. We don't do anything special. God has blessed me to be married to a man who lavishes love (on everyone) 12 months out of the year. I love flowers, but he has been known to buy them year round. I'm not a big chocolate fan, so a big red heart box full of chocolates are not the key to my heart. And even though diamonds are my birthstone, they are not my best friend. Marc however is, and for me its just the fact that I get to spend some time with him that counts.

So long story short I had a pity party yesterday (between you and me , I'm guessing my hormones are out of whack as I get older and start to face the big "M" word. But that's a post for another day!) Anyway, by the end of the day I was feeling lost and alone and really all I wanted to do was go home and crawl into my own bed. Instead the electricity went off (at 7:30 PM, and did not come back on until 11:30 PM) at my mom's and I ended up in bed early anyway! That was until around 12 midnight when Marc called me on the phone to ask me if I was going to let him in. Now, keep in mind I was sound asleep and for a minute I thought I was dreaming. But no, my sweet husband (who was working a job out of town) decided to stop at my mom's home instead of driving the additional 45 minutes home to sleep in his own bed. In addition he came bearing gifts! I loved the red roses, but my favorite gift (second to having Marc standing at the door) was the bag of Zero candy bars and four boxes of sweet tarts! Who would not love a man like that? For reasons beyond my understanding God blessed me to have this wonderful man in my life. I know I don't deserve him, but despite my flawed (and sometimes selfish) ways....God loved me soo much that he gave me Marc! There is this church song that says...I don't know why he loves me so much, but I'm soo glad he did (flaws and all)!

Old Habits Do Die!

They say old habits die hard. For the last month I have been pulled so far out of my comfort zone that any habits I've held have had to go out the window. My daily routine has been interrupted and now I'm beginning to think (actually I know) God interrupted my day to day living to get my full attention. I no longer have the luxury of surfing the net when I want to, watching the TV shows I want to watch or even decide when I will eat, clean, cook or get dressed! My needs have had to be put on the back burner for the needs of others. But the one thing I have learned to do is get up early in the morning so that I can spend time with God. I have learned that water, just like my need to read the bible is a must for my daily living. For the first time that I can recall in my lifetime, exercise is a necessity so that I can maintain the stamina that is needed to do the task set before me. After eating "healthy for 14 days (not to mention spending two days fighting off food poisoning) my body no longer craves sweets! As a matter of fact just the thought of them causes me to gag. Things that I considered important or that caused me to stress no longer bother me in the same way. I am in a place of peace that I have not known before, and its a habit I am willing to accept. Yes, old habits do die hard, but new habits may be the key to living!

A Short (well maybe not soo short...lol) Update!

I'm still here! Mom went to the doctor yesterday and hopefully we only have three more weeks of recovery left. As most of you know, I spent most of last week sick from food poisoning (not the way to spend your time as a nurse). Thank you so much for the prayers. This week Nicki is coming back with me and we will be staying for only a few days. I'm coming home early to celebrate Marc's birthday with him on Thursday and then Friday night we will be attending the Ministers Wives and Widows Alliance Annual Sweetheart Banquet. At some point today I have to get out of the house and track down that little black dress that I should have brought last week (I'm kicking myself now for not just getting it last week when I saw it).

My husband has been soo good to me. He has been working some pretty long hours (between church and his communication business), but has still taken the time to come and pick me up each Thursday so that I can spend a long weekend at home in my own bed. Most of the time we (Nicki has been traveling back and forth with him so that he is not on the road alone) do not get into the house until 1 or 2 o'clock in the morning! Then by 8 am he is back up and off to work again. Thankfully next week he is taking a few days off and we are going to spend some down time together.

At the end of the month I am going to a really special dinner with my dress sale buddies. And this time we are allowing the husbands to tag along. I am soo excited because we are going to be eating at a local restaurant that I have been dying to eat at since forever (Italian food is the key to my stomach). Mostly I just excited to be able to hang out with my friends.


My cousins (akamorelikesisters) have been a lifeline for me the last few weeks. They call and check on mom and I and have been sending me encouraging text messages just about each day. My aunt calls each morning to see how her "girls" are doing and Marc and I talk about three times a day (if not more)! I don't know how people survive without a strong family bond.

Honestly I am not sure what I would do without my friends and family. Then there are my PW ladies. OMG!!!! You ladies have been such an encouragement the last few weeks (thank you Pastor Veronica for checking on me, and praying over me. You girlfriend are a texting queen)! I can't wait tell May when I get to meet some of you ladies in person!

Well, that my dear friends is my "short" update. HAHA Be good and hopefully in the next few weeks I will get back in the game (Especially with my photography! I miss taking pictures). Tell then see you on twitter and facebook!

Love & Respect, The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

A few months back I had the opportunity to read The Language of Love and Respect . I had heard so many great reviews of the original Love and Respect that I thought I would try the second book in the series. Even though I got where the author was going with the material I was not as impressed by the second book (actually it left me fairly confuse, again a good reason probably to have started with the original book first...lol). When I was given the opportunity recently to read the original first book I jumped at the chance to see what I might have missed.

I can say now that I am so glad I gave the book a chance. From the moment I opened it and started reading I was amazed at how many of the points spoke to me. The way the book is laid out it keeps you reading because its like a light bulb comes on and you realize someone actually gets the differences between men and women and how we communicate. The book is broken down into three parts which clearly shows you the stages and steps needed to not only communicate differently with your spouse but lay out biblical principles for why women need love and men need respect. I would caution women especially to not get so caught up in the seemingly slanted view that many have said that the book promotes a man's agenda. Its really not that way and if you take the time to actually read through the book you will probably find yourself seeing things from a different perspective.

The book is a perfect tool for small groups and those who lead a marriage ministry. I have read many books on marriage over the years but very few have made me feel as if someone really got it and offered clear and concise ways to improve any marriage (even the good ones).

I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as a part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to give a positive review. The opinions expressed here are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commissions 16 CFR, part 255

What I learned from 14 Days of Fasting

1) I have more willpower then I thought!
2) I am not a patient person, and nursing is not my gift!
3) I need to study the bible on a more regular basis. When I didn't I felt very disconnected from God and from the people around me.
4) Its time to stop being so scared and just do the things God has called me to do!
5) I don't do well when I'm away from Marc!
6) I need a different recipe for a slushy!
7) With a little tweaking my cooking skills could improve! This will make my husband very happy.
8) When you are having a bad day, pop in the ipod and walk laps around the house!
9) I don't know what I would do without the support, and prayers of family (and friends).
10) I am not alone, God is standing beside me and wants to carry the load!

Long Update!

Life has been crazy to say the least...what with mom's accident, me trying to fast while taking care of said mom, wheel chairs, crutches, walkers, doctor visits, traveling back and forth from the beach to the country to having the well go out at her home and having to have family bring us water in jugs! I'm home for the weekend and trying to catch up on all of the stuff I didn't get to do while home with mom.

This week was the hardest part of the fast for me. Cooking two types of meals is very difficult (especially when one is the very things you are fasting from like meat and sugar...lol). My cravings were off the charts, but I stayed the course (minus some sugarless chewing gum, which helped my nerves). Unfortunately the one thing I found the hardest this week was staying on my reading plan. Mom's internet is sporadic at best, and with not much time to myself as I am use to I just couldn't seem to keep it together. Two days away from the end of the Daniel Fast portion and I'm learning that no matter how much you plan there will always be a chance your plans won't pan out. But that does not mean that God's plan for you will not come to fruition.

My mom never planned to break her ankle and be laid up for 6 weeks. I never planned to fast for 14 days while taking care of my injured mom. My sister never planned to have to spend her weekends on the road traveling back and forth to take care of our mom. But I believe God planned all along that when this event happened that we would all be in a position to have to depend on each other. He also knew our family would be there to help carry the load. I have seen my cousins, aunts, and uncles more in the last month then I can ever remember (especially at the beginning of a new year). Last night was the first night that my mom stayed alone since her accident. This morning when I called to check on her she said she was doing good. At least three cousins had shown up to spend time with her. At the time I was with my aunt who said that my mom had a village taking of her. And at this moment I am thanking God for that village that is my family.

Yes, sometimes your plans don't turn out the way you expected (or the way you planned) but God always has a plan. To often we try to do it all on our own. We think if we ask for help that its a sign of weakness. Or we get so caught up in the world that is our own that we forget that their are others around us in need. When I finally got a chance to tweet for the first time this week I was struck by how little it matters about Cyndi's needs. Its not about us. Its all about loving God, and loving others more then we love ourselves!

"Weak" One!

I made it through the week (even through some major trials). The best part happened today when my mom told me she was proud of me for sticking it out. A few weeks ago when I announced to the family that this was my plan, most of them looked at me like I was crazy. Then the day the call came from my mom that she had fallen and broke her ankle, and that she needed me....Well, I thought I might have been crazy also! Crazy for trying to continue with it while taking care of my mom. Crazy for dragging half of my kitchen home with me (food, spices, and cooking utensils). Crazy for trying to maintain a Reading plan, fasting from twitter and facebook for a week, and crazy for thinking I could do any of it in the first place! But a week later, I am so thankful for the voice in my head that said....you can do it! I know that voice was God. He gave me the courage to continue. And I know he will give me the courage to keep on doing things I never thought I was capable of doing! Its only been a week, and I still have a week to go..but unlike last week.....I know I can do it, no questions asked, no matter what comes my way....because my God said I could!

My Thoughts on Day 4

The last 24 hours have been a real roller coaster ride to say the least. I finally made it to my moms late last night (Marc's job took longer then he thought, so it was really late before we departed). My daughter Nicki went with us to help unload and also act as a travel companion for Marc on the ride back. After much debate I decided to stick with the fast. I packed up as many items as I could that would help me stay on track. At first I considered giving up, but a voice in my head kept saying why let this obstacle become an obstacle between you and me. Reading Leviticus has been very hard for me. I called Marc this morning to get his take on the book and he said its like a history lesson (which explains why I am having such a hard time with it. History was not one of my favorite courses in high school). The details that God passes on to Moses frankly bore me (its ok if I'm transparent right?). But as I read it I'm coming to realize just how often we give up on something because its hard. I can imagine that some of the people of Israel asked themselves why God? Why, so many details, so many rules, so many words....lol! When does it all stop? How often have we asked ourselves the same question and not liked the answer that God gives back? Yes, ministry is hard, yes loving your enemy is hard, marriage is hard, raising your children is hard. But...that is what I have called you to do. Has my mom's accident made my plans to fast a bit harder? Yes, but if I am committed to hearing from God then I have to accept the conditions in which he places me. Even if they inconvenience know one but me!

Life Interrupted

I got a call yesterday evening that my mom had fallen and broke her ankle. Its put life in chaos and completely disrupted my plans. I have the feeling there is a lesson in their somewhere. At the moment I don't know what that is, but since I have to pack today and get on the road it will have to wait! I will probably be gone a few weeks. As far as the fast is concerned, I'm taking it a day at a time. Right now my mom needs me and that is where I will be. I posted briefly on twitter and for a minute I was ready to cave in and just keep posting. Thankfully I came to my senses, and disabled my phone again to only receive incoming messages. So if you follow me on twitter and want to send me a note of encouragement (I have the feeling I will need it, along with your prayers) it would be appreciated. Thank you to everyone who has responded so far. My nose started bleeding last night and was still bleeding this morning (this is usually a sign of stress...HAHA), so please pray that I calm down enough to take care of what I need to take care. My sister and I will be tag teaming, so I will probably be back home on the weekends (we both live within two hours of my mom). I'm guessing picking patience as my word for the year and saying I would take one day at a time was a good thing! I will keep you posted here (mom does at least have the internet..lol).

My Thoughts on Day 2

Marc and I have been in ministry for many years. Being a Pastors wife is like no experience I have ever had. I realized this morning that God is stretching me and using me in new ways. He has bestowed gifts on me that I never knew I had. I imagine this is the same way the people in the wilderness felt when God commanded them to use their gifts to build his temple (Exodus 31). It hit me this morning that he has done and is doing the same thing today in all of us. He has given us gifts and talents to help build his Kingdom. Not for our glory, but so that the world can see and know who he is!

My Thoughts on Day 1

I may post everyday (or not). So far I am enjoying the time spent with God in the morning (its nearly noon and I have not even turned on the tv), and it must be working because when my mom called this morning she said I sounded better then I usually do on Mondays. I also think spending time with my family this weekend helped a lot. Laughter truly is good for the soul!

When people tell you to prepare for a fast ahead of time I could not agree more. One thing I know I will do differently the next time is have all of my recipes printed out in advance (running back and forth between the kitchen and the familyroom to look at the recipes on-line will not work) and also make sure I have completely de-cluttered my refrigerator of items that are not allowed (My son even had the nerve to bring home a bag of donuts from work. Funny thing is I was not tempted at all). Not to mention prepare some items in advance such as my vegetable broth, dressing for my salad, and making sure I have everything on my list (I have to make a trip to the store today to get fruit).

I spent a portion of the morning cooking the vegetable broth to use in recipes, and I made our dinner in a crockpot (chili veggie soup) in advance so that my whole day is not spent focused on the food. I want to be fully engaged in the fast itself (and not what I can and cannot eat for 14 days).

I missed reading the bible on Saturday and Sunday because of our schedule, but instead of worrying about what I missed I moved forward this morning with the reading for today. How ironic that it was doing the exodus of the children of Israel from Egypt. As I read the instructions God gave Moses and the people of Israel on how to live, and how to build a temple I was struck by how detailed God was. At first glance it a would almost appear as if God was trying to keep them busy (after all they spent 40 yrs in the wilderness, what else did they have to do...lol). But after discussing it with Marc and realizing it had more to do with God wanting us to do things his way, and not our own it struck a cord with me. It would seen that the Daniel Fast asked a lot of you (Marc even said there sure are a lot of rules), and yes you must be very detailed in your planning and preparation......but how great would it be if we were as detailed in the planning of our life? Of course the guidebook for that is our bible. I can't imagine what it must have been like to actually have God speak to you and talk with you the way he did with Moses. But thankfully he cares enough about me that he speaks to me in his word, and in my heart. How can I go a day without taking the time out to hear what he has to say?

Keeping Myself Accountable

Ok so this list is just to keep myself accountable over the next 14 days. And since I don't want my time with God to just be about me if you have any prayer request please let me know. If you don't want to share for the whole world to see just send me an email at witfour@hotmail(dot) com. So here is my 14 day plan. Hopefully some of these items will remain on my list even after the 14 days are over! So here goes:

1) No Salt. Mrs. Dash and I are about to become BFF's (again).
2) No Sugar (accept natural sugar in food). God bless my poor family in advance. Please pray I do not become an old grouch!
3) No facebook or twitter for the first week (this in an effort to stay focused on my time with God). I'm sure several people are singing "Hallelujah" right now. LOL
4) I'm doing a shorter version of the 21 Day Daniel Fast. I have been able to gather some great resources for this here and here. If I can get Marc to do it I may have to modify his diet to include fish and chicken because of his diabetes (and I'm thinking about cooking that in advance so I won't be tempted).
5) One thing I am trying to approve upon this year is to not eat after a certain time, and also to get a good nights sleep. So no meals after 6 PM, and my plan is to start going to bed by 11 PM. I know for some of you that is pretty late, but on average I was going to bed at 1 or 2 o'clock in the morning and now that I am older that just won't cut it anymore!
6) I plan to drink just water (maybe with a bit of lemon). I do plan to use natural fruit juices to cook with...but I won't be drinking it! My biggest sacrifice will be my almost daily sweet tea addiction from Chick-fil-A! LAWD, help me!
7) Its been a long time since I went near our Wii Game. So as much as I dread hearing that thing groan when I get on it, starting Monday the Wii and I will become friends again.
8) Lastly, but definitely not least and probably the most important part of this process is that I will be doing the 90 day Bible Reading Plan!

The countdown begins on Monday. Please keep me in your prayers (thank you to all of the ladies who have already sent me words of encouragement)!

14 Days!

I stated yesterday that I have not made any New Years Resolutions. But I did decide to start this year different. I'm determined to not repeat some of the same mistakes I have made over the years...and the first step towards that is to change my habits! So starting next Monday I will be fasting for 14 days. 7 of those days I will be fasting from twitter and facebook (which I'm sure will please some....lol)! I'm also cutting out all sugar and salt during the 14 days and will be sticking to vegetables, some whole grains and fruit (gonna get back on that awful Wii game also). Today I started the Bible in 90 days reading, and I'm really hoping this time will be a time of renewal, a chance to detox, and also to spend some time alone with my father God. Please pray for me (but especially for my family who I am sure will not be to happy about two weeks without meat...well at least not by my hands)!

Patiently.......taking one day at a time!

I have never been one for New Years Resolutions (Marc calls them Reso-lies!). But for the last few years I have participated in One Word for the new year. After a fairly stressful year I have decided that in 2011 my One Word will be "Patience". Which should be interesting because I tend to want things to happen..quick, fast and in a hurry (mostly in my personal goals for life and ministry...lol). I have no problem waiting patiently in the line at Disney. I even stay fairly calm when waiting in traffic, or at the grocery store check out line. But when it comes to ministry, or in the life of my family I want to see changes right away. At the end of this year I started to get discouraged, I was wiped out physically and emotionally. As a person who suffers from high blood pressure I knew something had to change.  So even though I have a few goals for the coming year (starting with some weight lost, and being more organized at home.....you know the usual New Year reso-lies) I'm going to take one day at a time and see where it takes me! More specifically, where God takes me! Which in itself is scary because he's definitely been talking to me about some stuff and all I keep saying is..."Really God"? So if you plan to follow me this year, hold on to your hats....its going to be a bumpy ride (or at the most a very interesting journey)!

Snow, glorious snow!

Look what I got for Christmas! Actually I think just about everyone on the east coast got a White Christmas. I got messages from family and friends blaming me for the white stuff. As much as I would love to take credit, I don't think I have that much clout! LOL

Merry Christmas from our home to yours!

I would like to wish each of you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Have a blessed holiday with your family and I will see you back in January. I especially would like to say Merry Christmas to all of the Pastors and Ministers Wives out there. I have learned from experience that know one understands this world we live in quite like another PW. To the pastors who have befriended my husband and I and who keep us in their prayers, thank you. To my friends over at Leading and Loving It thank you for taking in this PW from a small urban church in Norfolk VA. Special thanks to my friend Lori who has been such a blessing in my life. You may never know what your friendship has meant to me, but I love you for having such an open heart. See you all in 2011!

Christmas Decorations (just a peek)

I'm still working on the tree and Marc plans to put up some stuff outside as soon as his work schedule slows down at the end of the week! He has been working some long hours for his business the last few weeks which is good in one way, but I sure miss him! As soon as we are done I will add more pictures. It has snowed here twice in the last week and the weatherman says it may snow again come Wednesday and once more over the weekend! At the rate we are going I may get a White Christmas yet. If I do I plan to snap pictures for our Christmas card for next year (and by George I plan to get Marc into a pair of jeans and a Santa cap if it kills me ...or him. Whichever comes first)! And yes, I am already planning for next year, including Christmas colors! LOL

If you need some Christmas decorating ideas check out Kelly's blog and also The Nester's Christmas Tour of Homes.

These Are A Few Of My Favorite Things

Since I have gone over my photo capacity for the moment. And since its close to Christmas I thought I would share a few of my favorite things (just call me Oprah)! HAHA

I love Bath and Body Works products. Especially their Hand Soap and Wall Flower Home Fragrance. My favorite scents are Sea Island Cotton and Dancing Waters.

I have been wearing Mary Kay products for over 20 years! And even now as a former Mary Kay representative I never travel without my basic skin care kit.

Many years ago I was introduced to Lady Remington jewelry (even sold it for a while), which is now called Lia Sophia. I have pieces that are at least 10 years old and are still in excellent condition for "costume" jewelry.

If you followed my Fashion week post you will have noticed that many of the clothing items I took on the cruise came from Catos. I like their low prices and the quality of the clothing is very good.

I don't cook very often, but when I do I break out my favorite pots and pans from HSN. Their Command Performance cookware are not just functional but they look pretty! LOL

Perfume and I have a love hate relationship. Most of the time when I try to spray a fragrance I start to sneeze. But many years ago Marc brought me several fragrances from Victoria Secret that I still love to this day. And because I can't wear it often (usually really special occasions) my bottles tend to last a very long time.

I'm more of a salt girl then that of sweets. But every once in a while I crave a bit of sugar. In most cases its either Sweet Tarts or a Zero Bar!

Its a given that as a SAHM for over 28 years I have done a bit of cleaning in that time. My kids hate the smell of Pine Sol, but for me my home is not clean if I can't smell the pine scent outside!  And I tend to buy Clorox Clean Up by the gallons at my local Sam's Club. Now I'm not suggesting adding this to your Christmas wish list, but we will all be doing a lot of cleaning over the next few weeks. Might as well use the products that work!

Now if the pine scent is too much for your delicate nose, then may I suggest the Mainstays candles from Walmart? Yes, Walmart candles are just as good as the more expensive ones from your favorite candle store and are just as fragrant.

My favorite gospel artist are Israel Houghton and Cece Winan. I own most if not all of their cds. The few I don't would make very good stocking stuffers (hint, hint to the family).

Oprah always has at least one favorite food item on her list of favorites. So in her honor, last but not least (candy doesn't count) I share with you my favorite food item from Panera Bread. Nothing beats a chicken salad sandwich and a bowl of broccoli and cheese soup! A gift card to Panera would be a great gift to give to your senior staff members.

So spill, what are a few of your favorite things?

Thanksgiving Day!

Just a few pics from Thanksgiving. I had planned to post more but seems I am out of space! Not sure what I will be doing to rememdy that , but we may be pictureless for a litle while on the blog! Guess you will have to check them out on facebook!