Holiday Break

I'm still enjoying the holidays with my family. So I've decided to follow the lead of some great friends and take a blogging break. See you all on the other side.....January 2010!!!!

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

We have been so busy the last few weeks. Add in the fact that I have been sick with a sinus infection the last three days, I am a bit behind in my Christmas preparation. So I'm taking a break for a few days so I can play catch up. Until then you guys play among yourselves (I will be back Christmas Day with lots of pictures).

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) I know I say this often, but this week has been crazy, a bit sad, and in many ways joyful all mixed up together.

2) Early in the week we lost a very special lady.

3) Tuesday was sort of a blur, but because of all of the things on our calendar for this week I knew I needed to get a few decorations up before the weekend.

4) Actually most of the week was a blur. Marc had a heavy schedule and we even missed the luncheon with Senator Miller that we were scheduled to go to on Thursday. What happens to you when you stand up a US Senator?

5) I'm learning not to pout when Marc gets caught up at his job. We are very thankfully that God has provided a way for Marc to own his own business. Sometimes I just wish he had the ability to work full time at just WABC.

6) Mrs. Ellis funeral took place on Friday and the repast was held at the preschool my daughter worked at, which just happens to be our old church. Being there that day allowed me the chance to sit in on the going away party for her that the staff and students put on.

7) After the repast I traveled back with my mom to her home for the weekend. Early Saturday morning we got up to go on a bus trip hosted by her gospel choir to see a play.

8) The play was awesome, but the bus ride was an adventure to say the least. If you follow me on twitter or facebook you may understand why. LOL

9) We got back from the trip early, and somehow or another Mom and I ended up at WALMART of all places. Who in their right mind shops at Wally World on a Saturday? Good thing we were in the country because the place would have been packed if it was a Saturday night here in the city!

10) We were in WalMart to buy Poinsettias for the altar at my mom's church. Several members got off the bus and headed into WalMart to also get flowers. Pastor Dickerson brought the biggest plant in the store. Said people would talk about him if he came in Sunday morning with the puny one. LOL

11) Sunday morning I went with my mom to church but the girls picked me up right after service. Its been pouring down rain all day, and I probably would have stayed with my mom a bit longer if I had not made plans to be with our Marriage and Singles Ministry to see a play "The Gift of the Magi" at New Life Providence.

12) We had a great time and even took a few pictures after the play.

13) This week I plan to finish up my decorating and then start the planning for Christmas dinner. After much deliberation I think I finally have the menu down, at least in my head. One year we had an Italian Christmas dinner and then a Soup and Sandwich Christmas. Guess which one did not go over well?

14) I just looked at the bulletin for this week and after looking at all of the upcoming events, not to mention the fact that our Children's church starts in a few weeks and the Women's Winter Tea that I will be speaking at. Well lets just say I need to go to bed and get some rest. Its been a long week and weekend. Anytime I have to go back and correct my words over and over again its time to give it a rest (seriously I have dozed off a couple of times with the laptop in my lap).

15) Oops, final note. Did you notice the new picture? Just another peek at the Christmas photoshoot from a few weeks ago. Oh, and before any PETA supporters question me. No the coat is not real. Its just a very good fake! LOL

Mrs. Ellis

I almost didn't write this post. I try very hard to respect the privacy of the members of our church. But Mrs. Ellis was not just a member of WABC to my family. Mrs. Ellis passed away last week at the age of 99. I have known her almost my entire life. I called her husband (Deacon Ellis) Pop Pop just like all of his other grandchildren did (she was my aunts mother). He called me Little Mary after my mom. But Mrs. Ellis was always Mrs. Ellis. Not because I feared her or disliked her, but because I respected her so much. She commanded respect not because she asked for it, it was just the way you treated Mrs. Clara Ellis. She weighed less then a 100 pounds, spoke in a soft voice but as Marc said in his eulogy to her on Friday when Mrs. Ellis spoke everyone listened. Mrs. Ellis and her family are a big part of the reason Marc and I are at WABC today. She will be thoroughly missed, but she leaves behind a very strong legacy. By the way this picture was taken just a week ago. When she passed she was ready to go, no fanfare, no big explosions. Monday night Marc said goodnight to her and Tuesday morning she was gone. Ask anyone and they can tell you where Mrs. Ellis is today. Can we say the same thing if we passed away tomorrow?

Miss. Marquisha

Friday before leaving for my trip we buried a very special family friend. The repast was held at our old church. It just happens to be the same place that my daughter teaches. This week marked the end of her time at the churches preschool. Quisha has plans to do substitute teaching and if all goes well she will most likely go back to grad school to earn her masters degree. Friday the staff gave her a goodbye celebration and my mom, Nicki and I were there to see it. The picture of her with the folder in front of her face was taken when she read a card from the children. She did not want me to take a pic of her crying.

Christmas Trip

Had a great time hanging out with my mama and big cousin this weekend. We attended a play in MD called "Christmas Celebration". It was an awesome presentation including camels, horse drawn carriages, children singing, dancers and the story of the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. If you are ever in the area you have to check out this place. My mom's church loved it so much that they have already started planning a trip for next year so that they can take the youth. Hopefully we will be able to take a bunch of WABC folks along also (I told my cousin to get ready to add another bus to the line up). If you follow me on twitter then you know that we had a crazy ride. There is nothing like a Baptist Bus Trip. LOL The church was pretty cool also. They offered popcorn and water while you watched the show (I called Marc and told him we need to invest in a popcorn machine at WABC for our family movie nights). Even if you didn't want to get up their "customer service reps" would bring the water and popcorn to your seat. My mom's pastor said if their church and WABC combined we might be able to pull off a church building like the cathedral.

Seeing Red

Thought I would give you all a glimpse at my Christmas decor for 2009. The little bit that I've actually got done. In case you didn't notice the ornaments are in a tray, not on the tree (the rest are in the attic). And the tablescape in the diningroom still has my other tablecloth on it (the Christmas one is still in the attic with the ornaments). Our schedule and the weather has put a major snag in our decorating plans. A few years ago this would have taken me over the edge and I would have been freaking out about the fact that we are only two weeks away from Christmas and I still have gifts to buy, cards to send out, and trees to decorate. I've come a long way baby. A sure sign of that was choosing red (red is my least favorite color, but for some reason it was calling my name this year) as the dominate color for my decorating scheme. I tend to go for the non traditional greens (lime), white, and yes even pale and aqua blue. As a matter of fact next year I'm leaning toward purple, pink and lime green. Yes, I tend to plan a year in advance. That way I can look for after Christmas sales and pick up the specific ornaments/decorations I will need next year (remember I'm the same girl that gets excited about Black Friday). My girls will probably love it (my husband and son not soo much). So dish....what colors do you use for Christmas?

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) Its beginning to look a lot like Christmas. We started putting a few of the Christmas decorations up last week. Nothing like the tree in this picture, but I can dream can't I?

2) This picture is one of the shots from our Christmas Photo shoot that we did after my friends Wedding Renewal. I thought I would give you all a peek of some of the shots. I won't reveal the one that will be on our Christmas greeting until the week of Christmas.

3) I spent the majority of the week cleaning out the rooms that the tree's will go in. I still have one more to clear out and then I will spend the majority of this week putting up the rest of the decorations. I know, I have a sickness!!!! Who else takes three weeks to put up decorations?

4) Thursday I had the best time hanging out with some great ladies. If you are a Pastor's Wife you really should check out Lori's "Leading and Loving It" blog. Thursday morning a bunch of us got together on tokbox for a virtual roundtable. I know that Brandi and Lori have some planned for the beginning of the year, so make sure you check it out.

5) I have a heart for women (especially Pastor wives who are struggling) and one of my dreams is to one day be able to host a Pastor's Wives Conference here in VA. I have been reading and listening to lots of messages lately about "dreams". At this point and time that is all this is, is a dream. But lately I have been feeling this need to write these dreams down. Not just in my heart, but in words on paper. So, there you have it....one day I will (not just hope) be inviting Pastor's Wives to VA for a time of fellowship, fun and rejuvenation!

6) Friday I got to spend some time with a few local minister's wives at a meeting for our Minister's Wives and Widows Alliance of Tidewater. Most of the ladies in this group have been in ministry longer then I have been around. A few actually knew my grandparents! They offer words of wisdom to those of us who now follow in their footsteps.

7) Saturday evening WABC ordained our longtime friend Rev. Rob, and he officially became the Assistant Minister to Marc. It was a beautiful service. Marc was the speaker and his advice to Rob was to preach! No matter what, preach the word that God has placed on your heart.

8)At the end of the service Marc presented Rob with a Bible, a Hymn Book, and several books that he said every leader should read, in addition to their bible (he also told Rob there would be a pop quiz).

9) Our friend Rev. Davis actually presented Rob with the hymn book. I thought he was going to preach. He put a new spin on a old traditional book that most churches do not use anymore (Marc had a time finding that book....he went to three stores before he found one). Rev told Rob that he would be surprised at the messages he might find in that book, the comfort those old hymns may give him in times of trouble. It made me want to go back and look at Marc's and I don't even like hymns. LOL!

10) At the end of the service the Catechize gave Rob a charge. The one that struck me the most was when he told Rob he had been placed at WABC to be the Aaron to Moses (meaning Marc). Basically he wanted Rob to know that he was there to have Marc's back. Then he told him that in time, one day God would elevate him to a Moses if that was God's will and then someone would become his Aaron!

11) Today we traveled to another friends church to celebrate their first year as a church and their Pastor's first anniversary as Pastor. I have to say Marc tore it up. His message was "Something to Shout About". I don't know what got into him this weekend but he was on all weekend. I love seeing him use the gifts that God has given him.

12) This week Marc and I (along with many more I am sure) will have lunch with one of our local Senator's. Senator Miller was actually at Marc's ordination so she is not a stranger to us. I'm just praying I don't fall on my face or suffer some other embarrassing moment. Events like this usually leave me speechless ( I literally have a hard time talking to people who I don' know)!

13) If all goes well I will go home to spend a few days with my mom. Last year mom invited me to see a play in MD along with several other family members. I don't have a clue what I am going to see, I just know its a Christmas play. LOL Good thing I love spending time with my family.

14) Sunday afternoon I will rush back here to attend a Christmas play with our Marriage and Singles Ministry. Needless to say I will probably pass out by week's end. Thus is my life! I have always said that my life is a series of events.

15) I can't be the only person attending a bunch of parties, installations, weddings, etc. What upcoming holiday events will you be attending this week?

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) We have had a fun week in the "J" household. I love this time of year.

2) Thanksgiving Day was crazy as usual (which has become a tradition for my family). My stepsister and her children and grandchildren joined us for Thanksgiving this year. Its the first time all of us have been together since before the death of my stepfather nearly three years ago.

3)I choose to chill this year and just take in the atmosphere and embed it in my heart.

4) Friday morning Marc and I hit the ground running and tackled the crowds on Black Friday so that we could begin our Christmas shopping.

5) We made it to ever store on our list although while I was in line at Target I did question what I was thinking.

6) That thought lasted about a minute. I'm actually one of those crazy people who actually enjoys Black Friday. To me it marks the beginning of the holiday season (I'm also the same crazy person who will hit the after Christmas sales).

7) We finished the majority of our Christmas shopping by 11 and I was back at home by 11:30 chilling on the sofa. Poor Marc was worn out. He spent most of the afternoon napping (at one point we both fell asleep on separate sofa's).

8) Saturday we attended the 25th Wedding Celebration of our friend's Peggy and Willie. It was a beautiful ceremony and the reception details were gorgeous.

9) One of our photography friends was at the celebration and graciously took pictures of Marc and I in front of the hotel Christmas tree. They came out great and will be the photo on our Christmas card this year. He also took pictures of my girlfriends and I (his wife Priscilla is on my left). Only three of the dress sale buddies were able to be at the party, but I think we represented well.

10) The fall decor comes down this week and the Christmas decorations start to go up. I brought a few items at Michael's this weekend to add to last years decor. I have this bright idea to hang wreaths from every window. Only problem is that I'm not sure how to go about doing that. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

11) WABC will be ordaining our Senior Associate minister on Saturday, and in two weeks Marc will ordain his first deacon since coming to WABC. Over the last couple of weeks Marc and I have been praying for WABC and its leadership and the hope that God will provide more team members to add to our ministry. There are several key areas in ministry at WABC that are in need of people to come in and help us move the ministry forward in 2010.

12) Speaking of 2010, today in his message Marc reminded everyone of all of the blessings WABC has received in the last year. He wanted them to know that though we may be small in number, we should never stop dreaming the big dreams.

Congratulations Peggy and Willie

Today Marc and I had the privilege of watching one of my best gal pals and her husband celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary. So I wanted to send a special shout out to Peggy and Willie on this most beautiful occasion. We also got to hang out with two of my favorite girlfriends. We are all part of a very special club...The Dress Sale Buddies Club (we use to all sleep overnight in a van for several years to buy fufu dresses for our girls). Over the years we have formed a deep bond, which included our husbands, and children. We have laughed together, cried together, celebrated together and watched our "baby girls grow into beautiful young women. Two of the ladies from our "Dress Sale Buddy" group were not able to be here this weekend because of the holidays so I've posted some photos to share with them. Marc and I also took our Christmas photo for 2009. I'll give you a sneak peak on Sunday's Mind Dump.

Embedded in my heart

Thanksgiving was crazy as usual. Only difference this year was that I didn't pick up the camera to take pictures. Nope, not even once. Instead I sat an took it all in. Watched my family play, laugh, talk, eat, laugh and eat some more. Sometimes it seems like life is just plain crazy, you know the upside down, wonder how you got where you are and why you are where you are kind of world crazy...LOL! Sometimes I feel like I have been running a race with no destination in front of me, then I see my family (wacky as they are) get together and just love on each other. That unconditional kind of love that not everyone is blessed to have and I remember all I have to be thankful for. Thursday I just wanted to sit in the middle of all of that and take it all in so that when the bad days roll around again (and they will) I have not just a photo on paper of the good times....I have them embedded in my heart.

Thanksgiving Traditions

As much as I hate the word "tradition" when it comes to church (and then its only when we use tradition for tradition sake, without knowing why its "tradition". But I digress, and that's another story for another time). Some traditions are good. I think I start thinking about traditions especially around the holidays. I love celebrating the holidays (although many years ago I dreaded the holidays, and even went into a depression the closer we got to Thanksgiving and Christmas). A lot of my friends have already started putting up their Christmas decorations, but Thanksgiving holds great memories for me so I tend to hold onto it just a bit longer.

I still remember Thanksgivings spent with my maternal grandparents, my first year spending Thanksgiving with Marc at his parents home, our first couple of Thanksgivings in Germany, and now the crazy Thanksgiving meals at my mom's place.

My fondest memory of Thanksgiving was over twenty years ago while living in Germany. Marc always invited a fellow soldier over to have dinner with us. Most of them were young and single and were far from home. I miss being able to do that (we spend Thanksgiving with my mom who lives several hours away). I learned back then how to cook my first Turkey (thank goodness Marc was standing near by in case I messed up). He tells people to this day that he had to teach me to cook because otherwise I would have killed him!

To this day I make the same meal I made twenty some years ago (even when we go home, I make a Thanksgiving meal for us because nothing taste better then leftovers from Thanksgiving). Its become my "tradition". Not because I think I have to but because those memories remind me of all that I have to be grateful for. Thank you Lord for bestowing in Marc and I even back then the importance of family, friends, and the need to give back to others. So what's your Thanksgiving tradition? And what's a "must" at your Thanksgiving table (ours is Roasted or Fried Turkey, Sweet Potato Souffle, French String Beans with walnuts, Cornbread Stuffing, Cranberry Sauce and Macaroni with cheese)?

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) This is why I never let Marc take pictures of me (and yes, I wear a napkin like a bib, otherwise I would mess up half of my clothing)! LOL

2) Nicki and I took a break this morning from WABC to attend church with my son TJ at New Life Providence Church (our adopted church). This was the last day of their Month of Missions. This is when many of their missionaries come home to tell about their ministry.

3) After church I went home to fix dinner (yes, I actually cooked on a Sunday). My intention was to surprise Marc when he got out of church. Figured I owed him as much since Nicki and I bailed on him today).

4) The surprise was on me because when I called him he told me today was our Senior Ministry "Senior Recognition Day". This is the day we take our Seniors out to dinner and they are served by the "younger" members of our church. Guess that homemade dinner will have to wait until tomorrow. lol

5) Nicki took me over to meet them, but only after we had scouted out a few stores before the big "Black Friday Sales" this weekend.

6) Black Friday is a big day in this household. Its the one day Marc and I hit the ground running to pick out Christmas gifts for our family and friends (as I said last week, we do our personal gift shopping after Christmas, but we are big on giving out to our friends and family). WABC even has a gift exchange Sunday.

7) My husband has always been a big gift giver. He got it from his mom who had gifts for everyone (including a little extra in case a unexpected visitor comes along) to the point that her livingroom would be overflowing with presents. The first year that Marc and I were dating she even had a gift under the tree for me.

8) After all of the Black Friday shopping we will be coming back home to start pulling out the Christmas decorations. By the end of the weekend my fall decorations will come down and the Christmas stuff will start going up. I can't wait to start.

9) We gave out the Thanksgiving baskets at WABC today. I hear the team worked their socks off yesterday. Nicki and I had wanted to be their to help out, unfortunately a dear friend passed away this week and our family was attending her Homegoing Service while the volunteers at WABC were packing up the food. I heard that one of our members took some pictures. I can't wait to see them.

10) I met some great ladies this week at a virtual roundtable for Pastors Wives. It was the first time I have ever been on a webcam (plus I got to try out a Mac, thanks to my daughter Nicki). It was the coolest thing (meeting the ladies, not the mac. Not that the Mac wasn't great). I can't wait for the next one. I'm kicking myself now for not taking a picture.

11) I received an awesome package in the mail this past week. I won't name any names but I just want to say that this person blessed me in a way that I'm not sure many would understand. I love to read, and I am an information junkie by nature. Let's just say that I have enough books now to take me through the holidays (both of them). The part I loved the most is that this person seemed to know exactly what type of leadership books/information I would have gotten if I had purchased them myself. And they seemed to get that even though I am a women, that I would want to read the same things that most would have just reserved for a man in leadership. Thank you soo much, you made me feel as if I contribute something of substance to this crazy world we live in.

11) I probably won't post much this week because our schedule is kind of tight, so I want to take the opportunity right now to wish everyone a wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday. I have so much to be thankful for, including all of my great cyber friends. Happy Thanksgiving.

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Black Women's Hair

I don't know if you saw the Oprah episode where they were talking about "Good Hair" (the documentary by Kris Rock), specifically black women's hair. But I thought my "peach sister's" (hope I haven't offended anyone) might get a kick out of this post by Priscilla Shirer about hair. Oh, and if you want to ask me about my hair go right ahead.

He Is With You

I got the opportunity to hear Mandisa at the Women of Faith Conference this summer. I heard this song that day and fell in love with it. I ended up buying the CD and I have probably worn out every track on that thing. Just thought I would share.

Note: Don't forget to go down to the bottom of my page and pause the music on my playlist so that you can hear her song.

Monday Afternoon Ramblings (through the eyes of the wife)!

1) In case you didn't know it we had a crazy week. Remnants of Hurricane Ida were whipping at our door for nearly three days! By the time I got home yesterday it was late and all I wanted to do was chill...hence the Monday Afternoon Ramblings. That and the fact that I hadn't taken any pictures of the storm. Got up first thing this morning and took these. It was especially good to see the sunshine the last few days.

2) In the 15 years that Marc and I have been in this house and for the first time that we can remember we lost electricity for longer then an hour. But not as long as many of our neighbors. One of our church members electricity just got turned back on last night!

3) The estimate of damages for our area have not come in yet, but its expected to be in the millions! There is soo much damage. I feel sort of helpless, and frustrated as to how to help. I do know that the Redcross is asking for assistance.

4) Several homes caught on fire during the storms and from what I have heard several people lost their lives on the highway.

5) We only sustained a small amount of damage. There is a limb hanging on our roof that will have to be removed and I have a lot of pine cones and needles that need to be removed off our walkway and the front porch.

6) I was surprised at how frustrating it was for the little time we were without electricity, but after reading Kelly's and Heather's post about their Compassion trip I quickly shut up. Speaking of the Compassion Organization, I think we have come close to choosing a child to sponsor. After speaking with a friend I have decided to share this with the kids and we will decide as a family. It is one of the things on my wishlist for Christmas.


7) I am also hoping to participate in several upcoming serving opportunities at WABC, and a few at NLP with my family. In the last two years I have had a hunger to do more in my community for others. As the children have become older their Christmas list has diminished and now I am hoping that we will do more things together that will benefit others.

8) After three days stuck in the house I was very happy to be going to WABC on Sunday. After service we went to a new restaurant for dinner (I love Italian food), did a bit of shopping and then went home and chilled.

9) During the week we have experienced death and new life. One of the members from our old church passed away. Marc spent some time Sunday with the husband and is on the program for the Homegoing service on Saturday.

10) We also ushered in the birth of the newest little one at WABC. My family is excited at the prospect of more babies to hug and love on. My poor hubby is itching to be a grandpop, but none of our children have plans to head in that direction any time soon. LOL

11) I'm very excited about the upcoming Pastors Wives Roundtable that Lori and Brandi will be hosting on Thursday. I'm still waiting for Nicki to hook me up with her web camera though.

12) While stuck at home this week I was able to watch a message by Priscilla Shirer to women leaders hosted by Lifeway. It was an awesome message (if you haven't noticed I am an information junkie). I hope one day to hear her in person.

13) We have had to postpone or cancel a few events at WABC because of the storms, but our outreach ministry is working on several things for the upcoming holidays. I'm determined to enjoy this downtime while I can because in a few weeks its going to get mad crazy busy again.

14) Thankfully I get to go home for Thanksgiving and because several more family members then usual will be at my mom's home the only thing I have to prepare to bring is a few desserts (can you say Sam's Club). Our Thanksgiving Celebrations are never tame, so it will be interesting to see what kind of crazy things happen this year.

Playing by my own tune!

I have been wanting to use this picture forever. I even knew what I would call the post, but what I didn't know was what the message would be. Then I read Brandi's post about music, and Lori's response and I started thinking (never a good thing). Isn't it amazing how God works? Each of us play by our own tune. Some of us do it with a little country, some a little rock and then others with a bit of soul. Yet we all were created by one God. Sometimes I think we forget that God created each of us different (and not just the color of our skin). But even with all of that he created us alike in so many ways. Perhaps you are confused by now? What I'm trying to say (especially to women) is that even though I may play a different tune from you, we are more alike then we are different (for instance each of us are mothers, daughters, sister's, wives, pastors wives....see we are more alike then we thought). Many times we let our differences define our relationship with others. Sometimes we let it define our relationship with God. We put up barriers where none should exist. We do it in church, at our school, in the workplace and then we pass it on to our children, our friends, our peers, our congregation (starting to get the picture). I believe when this happens we miss the bigger picture. What if we blended our music together and created a new tune? I learn from you, you learn from me and together we change the world. Each of us are given different gifts, but when we merge those God given gifts together we can create a new sound. Just think of the things we could accomplish when we come together as one. As a teenager I sang in the school choir. During practice we would each sing in our sections (all of the altos together, all of the sopranos, all of the tenors and then bass). Individually we sounded good, but when we blended our voices together we sounded awesome. Just imagine what would happen if we as the church started to do that. I believe we could accomplish so much more when we stop competing and started working together to change the world we live in. There is nothing wrong with playing by your own tune, but just imagine what would happen if you joined with someone else and created an orchestra!

Update on Abe

Kelli sent me a message last night that Abe is a lot better. He had a major asthma attack (they thought it might be pneumonia) and scared her half to death (scared me for sure. Marc was threatening to get in the car and head to GA). She said to tell everyone thank you for all of the prayers and to please continue to pray, especially that she can learn to trust God to watch over him when she can't. Boy, do I understand that one (I still feel that way even though mine are all adults)! Please keep this family in prayer. They have challenges many of us would never be able to handle.

Urgent Prayer Request

Many of you know from reading my blog about my friend Kelli. Today I got a text saying they were headed to the hospital with Abe. Please pass this message on to as many people as you can. I know how much the power of prayer can change things. Prayer request: Hey everyone if you could please pray for a very special little boy. His name is Abe. He has some major health issues he is just a sweet small little boy not even 2 years old. They had to call an ambulance he was having issues earlier in the day with breathing. I don't know what has happened. He has 3 sisters and 2 wonderful parents. They could use everyone's prayers.

This was this morning and I still have not heard anything so please keep praying.

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) This has been an amazing, stressful, energetic, overwhelming, blessed week.

2) It started with Marc and I attending the Leadership Conference at Calvary Revival this past week. I loved sitting at the feet of such great communicators as Pastor McBath, Dr.Chand and Pastor Kelly.

3) Wednesday Marc had a cyst drained at the back of his head that had become infected. I told him no more illness (especially around Thanksgiving time). Its been just over two years since his last medical emergency. Back then I lost a lot of my hair and probably added a few gray ones to the mix.

4)The last day of the conference I had an amazing revelation. Friday after much prayer and conversation back and forth Marc and I chose who our pastor and mentor would be. I can't tell you the weight that has been lifted off of my shoulders after making this decision.

5) After months of preparation Marc and I were honored this weekend at the 1st Anniversary Celebration of us coming to WABC. I had very little to do with the planning and because of this I was able to sit back and enjoy the weekend. I will admit this was hard for me to do, but in the end I decided to be obedient and let others take the lead. Marc and I both agree that the committee did a great job.

6) Saturday night WABC members held a banquet in Marc's honor. Marc's friend of nearly 30 years spoke at the banquet. Mike and Marc go back to Marc's teen years, and Mike's wife Chico and I have been friends for a very long time. As a matter of fact when Mike and Chico renewed their vows a few years back, I was the coordinator. It was one of the largest weddings I have ever planned.

7) The WABC members honored Marc the night of the banquet with a very special gift. His very own lear jet (die cast model form of course), which he jokingly request every time someone asked him what they could do for him. I'm not sure they will ever be able to top that one. LOL

8) This afternoon we were blessed by the presence of our friend Pastor Todd and his congregation from Piney Grove Baptist Church for Marc's Anniversary Service. Todd (who came from the same church that Marc and I attended before coming to WABC) tore the place up!!!!!

9) The youth of WABC surprised Marc the night of the banquet by reciting the books of the bible. Something Marc emphasizes in his Wednesday night service. I do believe it was one of his most favorite highlights of the entire evening.

10) After all of the weeks activities I am ready for a little down time. Unfortunately (or fortunately) we still have several upcoming events. Including the 25th wedding anniversary of one of my girlfriends. So you will see me dressed up for at least one more occasion.

11) I'm still trying to get over the fact that we have been at WABC for nearly two years (the first year Marc stood in as their interim pastor). I can honestly say that Marc and I are humbled by the love that the WABC family has extended to us. We look forward to the next few years and can't wait to see what God has in store for this small church with the big heart.

Ever Have One of those"aha" moments?

Ever have one of those "aha" moments when all of the pieces start to make sense? This time last year Marc and I were making the transition from youth leaders to Senior Pastor and First Lady (yes, I said it just this once) of WABC. One of the things we couldn't agree on was whether or not we should choose a pastor and church under which to be covered. Traditionally in the black church when a minister becomes the pastor of a church he does not join that church but in many instances his family does. I have always felt that this left the family divided and I balked at the idea of us not having the same pastor. Yes, technically Marc is my pastor but something inside of me kept saying but what about the times we would need counseling, prayer, encouragement? Eventually we agreed that we wanted that covering and a place that we could sow into. The next question began with who and where? We wavered between two places one of which is my beloved adopted church and the other being under the leadership of someone in the area that both Marc and I respected and had gained much teaching from. This weekend while attending the Leadership Conference and listening to Pastor McBath express his love and respect for his Pastor it hit me like a ton of bricks. We have had a Pastor all along (it just had not occurred to me that he should be the one. Now I wonder how I could have ever questioned it could be anyone else). I immediately told Marc who surprisingly said he had been thinking the exact same thing! Isn't God amazing?

Pastor David and his wife Cheryl have been friends of ours for many years. It all began years ago when we were stationed in Riley Kansas. Over time our families formed a strong bond, so strong that it extended to our children and lasted well past the time we departed the area. After returning from Operation Dessert Storm Marc spoke with Pastor David about his calling and under his guidance Marc gave his initial sermon and was licensed by Pastor David to be a minister (nearly 18 plus years ago). Last year they blessed us by attending Marc's installation service and this past summer when they came back to visit Pastor David spoke before our congregation. Marc and I couldn't have picked a more humble, God fearing, anointed man of God to come under. And I can say with all confidence that I will never be ashamed to introduce him as my pastor.

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) This will be a short update. I had to stay home today. Late last night my throat started to get sore and I had hoped that by the morning it would be better.

2) Instead I woke up this morning with a ear ache, body ache and my throat was even more sore then last night.

3) My first thought was that I don't have time for that this week. We have so much on our plate starting with the Leadership Conference at Calvary Revival this week.

4) Saturday begins the celebrations of our first year at WABC with a dinner, followed by a special service on Sunday.

5) Several of Marc's friends will be speaking this weekend. Including a special pastor friend from our home church who now pastors his own church in Virginia Beach. And the boy can preach!

6) This weekend was pretty busy just in case you missed it. Nicki and I attended a hat luncheon on Saturday. Let's just say it was very interesting. Nicki and I had fun wearing our Sunday hats, but I warned the ladies in advance that this wouldn't become a habit. lol

7) As soon as the hat luncheon was over we raced home to change into some comfortable clothing and headed to the Holy Ghost Wiener Roast hosted by our adopted church. I plan to post pics of Nicki and her friend square dancing. It was a hilarious. LOL

8) In the next couple of months I will be busy with several projects. Starting in January we will be begin "Kidzone" which will be our children's church ministry. I think we have nailed down the curriculum to either Group's "Hands On Bible" curriculum or "Faithweaver" also from Group.

9) Our women's ministry will be hosting a Winter Tea in January, and then in February we will host our first Marriage Ministry Weekend event.

10) For the next couple of days I'm just going to chill. Well except for Wednesday afternoon. I'm meeting with a client who is interested in me doing a scrapbook for her. Its been a while, but I'm actually excited at the prospect of using my scraproom again.


11) Notice the picture at the top? Marc ended up being one of the photographers at the wiener roast Saturday night. After he finished his last session we took a few pictures. In case you can't see it Marc's hat has Mickey Mouse on it. I taught him well. LOL

12) All in all its been a pretty good week, and the weekend wasn't to bad either. Of course for me anytime I get to spend with family and friends is a good week for me.

Wiener Roast

After the luncheon Saturday Nicki and I dashed home to change for the Holy Ghost Wiener Roast. We were planning to meet several friends and the kids from WABC. The event is hosted by our adopted church New Life Providence. We had a great time. Nicki and my girlfriends daughter Beth headed to the square dance section. I will have to post pictures of them. It was hilarious to watch. They had planned to get on the mechanical bull and the climbing wall but the lines were crazy. We did get to go on the hayride which brought back memories of our first church when we first moved back to VA. We use to go on hayrides in the neighborhood during Halloween and throw out candy to the tricker treaters. One year we even went Christmas caroling. Its been a long time since I have been able to enjoy Halloween in this way. For the last four years while at GMZ I was one of the ones behind the scenes leading the planning for this type of event. Marc ended up being a volunteer this year when one of my friends from NLP asked him to take photos in the old fashioned photo booth. I'm looking forward to next year and hope that we can take a few more of the families from WABC.

Hat Luncheon

Enjoy, you won't get to see me in a hat that often. Some of the ladies from WABC attended a hat and hair luncheon yesterday. We were supporting one of our members and her organization who were hosting a fundraiser for an adopt a family project. They had a mini hair show, a hat contest and gave away several prizes. Every lady who attended left with a goody bag filled with various freebies.

Happy Birthday Nicki

My baby girl turned 24 today. This girl stays on the run. She has a full time job at a law office. She is finishing up her senior year at college (she is a Mass Communications major) and she works at WABC as our media ministry person. When she is not doing all of that she can be found singing, dancing, acting, or traveling. I don't know how the girl sleeps at night (but she does). I'm very proud of her and over the last couple of years I have noticed how she is allowing God to work in her life. I'm not sure where she is headed or what God has in store for her life but I know it will be big, and one day she will use her God given talents to bring glory to the Kingdom. Happy birthday baby girl!

Compassion International

Catalyst 2009 Compassion Moment from Catalyst on Vimeo.

I know many of you have already seen this video. Its been floating around a few weeks. I tried my best to avoid it (don't ask why). Something told me that once I saw it I wouldn't be able to ignore the need anymore. Guess what? I was right! Not only do you need a box of tissues to watch it, but I promise you it will change your way of thinking (if you have a heart). Guess I will be having a conversation with Marc. Its not like thirty eight dollars is that much money. We spend more then that at a meal on Sunday afternoon. Who am I kidding I have purse that are worth more! So I dare you (actually I double dare) you to look and not want to sponsor a child after you are done.

Oh, and don't forget to scroll down and pause my music before you listen to the video. And while your at it...grab a few tissues!

Sunday Mind Dump (via twitter and twitpic).

Thought it would be fun to post my twitter updates from my trip last week with my mom (along with a few pictures. Not to mention a few mispellings).

1) In the country hanging out with my mom for the week.

2) GM twitter family. Pouring rain here & ice cold. Busy Sunday w/ my mom. Church & then gospel concert @ my granddads old church.

3) No Sunday Mind Dump 2nite. Relaxing with my mom. Will twitter during the week about my trip and post pics later.

4) It feels wierd sleeping in my old bed in the bedroom I spent my teen years. They were not always the best of times.

5) Some memories r good. Like t/sound fall leaves underfoot, the smell of fireplaces burning and the crisp, cold fresh country air.

6) Forgot how loud my moms furnace was. The thing scares me everytime it comes on. lol

7) Missed hearing Marc speak yesterday. Heard he tore up the pulpit. Hope he left some since it wasnt his! lol

8) Internet access is limited. So prepare 4 lots of twitter updates. May have 2 give my mom a router for Christmas.

9) Going deep in the woods.

10) Only my mom would be playing the color purple soundtrack on the way 2 gospel choir practice.

11) Why r there still no street lights on these country roads?

12) Ok this community choir is baaad! And I mean that in a good way! They r that good.

13) Just had a deer run in front of us. Told u it wouldnt be a Ram in the bush!

14) Had lunch with the uncles and then did a little window shop. Now back 2 the house to chill.

15) The way my mom worked me today...I should be sleep by now!

16) The mom has me on t/ run again 2day. Going to meet with her trainer, then off to t/church so she can do some clerical work.

17) After that we are going 2 see my 80 something yr old aunt and then home 4 lunch b4 heading back 2 church 2nite 4 bible study!

18) And were off!

19) Sitting in the lounge chilling while my mom works out with her young trainer!

20) Some of the people here need a athletic fashions what not 2 wear intervention! God bless their sweet souls.

21) Mom started upper body strength workout 2day. Wonder how much work we will get done 2morrow (its my last day here)?

22) There is one older gent on a treadmill. He is going 2 town. Makes me think I have no excuse not to get up and move my 45 year butt!

23) Mom is about to get on a cycle. This out 2 be good. Oh man she got off. I must have missed it!

24) Now she is on the treadmill. She is really getting a workout Im impressed!

25) Headed 2 see my Auntie.

26) On my way into BS.

27) Had a good time at bible study. Main topic was women in ministry.

28) Such a busy week. I'm bone tired.

29) My mom just woke me up at the crack of dawn to watch a movie! It had better be good! lol

30) Ok. I guess I will 4give her. The movie was pretty good.

31) Did some work at the church. Visited a church member and now we off to the mall!

32) Ok. Tired, hungry and my feet hurt. Time 2 go home.

33) Ok quiet everyone Greys is on!

34) Fist fights and gushing blood. Great start 2 the night.

35) This is my last night here with my mom. Its been fun but I do miss my family.

36) Ok, keep hearing this strange animal call! Def. time to go back to the burbs!

37) So guess who showed up last night (at two am).

38) Hubby and I just had lunch with my mom. Now we r headed home. Have a banq. this evening 2 attend.

39) Back home.

40) Had a great time at the banquet. Ended up sitting next to the daughter of one of the ladies from my moms church. Talk about small world!

Date Night

OK, you all will probably see a lot of pictures of us dressed up in the coming months. We have several banquets to attend over the next few weeks, including the one for Marc's anniversary. Last night we went to a banquet in support of the Life Enrichment Center in Norfolk. Its the same center Nicki worked as an extra on in The Bill Collector. Its also the center we partnered with to giveaway backpacks with this year. I'm excited about this partnership and would never have thought about partnering with others if I hadn't read "Servolution" by Pastor Dino Rizzo. I love the things that he and his wife DeLynn along with Healing Place have done in their community. This is a big part of the vision I know that Marc has for WABC.

We had a great time last night. I got to see some of my New Life Providence family which is always great. But mostly I enjoyed spending time with Marc after being separated for the week. Crazy......after 26 years of marriage we still enjoy each others company. If you follow me on twitter you would have noticed that he surprised me and turned up at my mom's home at 2 AM, just so he could drive me back home on Friday. Originally my mom was suppose to take me, but he decided to save her the trip (secretly, I think he missed me...lol). I still plan to post a recap of my vacation later in the week, and tomorrow night I will be back to my Sunday Mind Dumps. Until then hope you are having a great weekend.

Just Checking In

Just checking in briefly. Marc and I were honored this past weekend at a luncheon. I wish you could have seen the look on his face when he found out he would have to walk down what was basically a catwalk. It was a priceless moment. My husband probably hates the spotlight even more then I do, so this was uncomfortable for both of us. It reminded me of my modeling school days at Barbizon (bet you didn't know that little bit of juicy info).

After the banquet I went home to pack my bags. I'm spending the week with my mom in the country. She said she had a list of daughter do's for me, but mostly we have been on the run, and will probably continue throughout the week.

Yesterday we attended morning service at my home church and that evening my mom sang with her community choir at my grandfathers church (he was the pastor for over 40 years). Its been a while since I was there. I had the best time. Many of the songs that they sung took me back to my gospel choir days with my friend Gail. It felt so good to just sit in the audience and just worship! It was awesome.

Reflections of a PW

Next month Marc and I will celebrate our 1st year at WABC. Its been a wild rollercoaster of a ride. Most of the time its been fairly enjoyable. I can honestly say I have learned a lot about being in leadership (the good, the bad and the ugly...although truth be told I probably learned that little lesson long before coming to WABC). The one thing I wasn't prepared for was the time that it would take away from my marriage and family. For years I have been trying to turn my front porch into this little sanctuary. This week we finally finished it (well, minus a few details here and there). But this morning my dreams of serving Marc breakfast on the front porch went out the window when I woke up to cold chilly rain.

That is the same way ministry is sometimes (cold and chilly). When I imagined becoming a PW years ago I had the wrong interpretation of leadership and of my role as as PW. Back then a PW just showed up on Sunday in her best outfit, wearing her best hat, and basically just smiled, and nodded her head when spoken to. Over the years I started to look at this position in a different way. I saw the potential to actually connect with women in a meaningful way. Not to just be served, but serve. What I didn't expect was the loneliness I would feel. Having grown up in church I was always surrounded by family, and in most cases around really good friends. That was until a few years ago when Marc and I begin working at GMZ. We had "friends", but know one close that we hung out with. Most of our close friends are at different churches, and are busy with their own church/family responsibilities. Having talked to several other ministers wives I know I am not alone. Thankfully there are several resources out there now that offer encouragement to this very special club. I though I would share a few (just in case you don't know about them).

There are several conferences available for Pastors Wives. The one at the top of my wish list is The First Lady Conference hosted by Pastor Tony Evans wife Lois Evans. Beth Moore recently did an event exclusively for pastors wives. Just found out that its now available for viewing on-line. As soon as I can work it into my budget I plan to pick it up along with the video upload available for the First Lady conference).


If you can't get away for a conference you might be interested in a virtual round table for Pastor's Wives that my friend Lori will be hosting. You can find more info here.

Another great support system for pastors wives can be found here. I hope some of these resources help you, I know they have helped me. Most of all remember that you are not alone. God didn't put you where you are to just leave you behind. He is with you always. Sit at the table and converse with him.

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1) I came close today to postponing Sunday Mind Dump for Monday Morning Ramblings (but I decided I would rather sleep in late tomorrow).


2) I have a good reason....this has been a busy week and its about to get even busier. But that's not the only reason.


3) It took me a while to get moving this morning. I woke up with sore arms, and legs. I guess the 3 1/2 mile walk did some good.


4) Our Senior adults are still talking about the dinner from last night. I would call that a successful event. I'm still looking for another name to describe our Senior Ministry. The way they were moving last night I'm not sure any of them qualify as "senior" anything.


5) Did the 3 day holiday slip up on anyone else besides me? The sad thing is that I should have remembered it was Columbus Day weekend. See, 26 years ago I gave birth to my firstborn on October 12th!


6) Not sure how we are going to celebrate, especially since most of the time he wants to avoid birthday celebrations. That is until you agree to his terms and don't make a big deal out of it. Isn't that just like a man? LOL


7) Saturday is the big day. Marc and I will be honored at a banquet along with several others for their contribution to the community. I still don't see how we made the list, but it is a honor. I am most excited about the location. I can't wait to see the inside of this place.


8) Right after the lunchoeon I will be leaving to spend a week with my mom. She already has a long to-do list, so stay tuned for some interesting twitter updates.


9) The weekend that I come back Marc and I will be attending a fundraiser banquet for the Life Enrichment Center. This is the same center that we partnered with for the Back to School Drive, and the center that was featured in The Bill Collector (the movie that Nicki was an extra in).


10)We started making plans for our upcoming Thanksgving and Christmas giveaways. I'm excited that this year our youth will not just be helping out with our giveaways but the may also have the opportunity to make cards for our sick and shut-in members, in addition to visiting a local senior citizen center.


11) At the end of the month our youth will once again be attending the Holy Ghost Wiener Roast which is sponsored by my adopted church. The kids had a blast last year (although I think the adults had an even better time). I didn't get to go so I plan to be first in line this time (j/k, I guess I will let the kids go first).


12)At the begining of November I get to attend a leadership conference with Marc. If he didn't have his own business that would never have been possible. Being your own boss has a few advantages including working your own schedule. This has also allowed him to take Fridays off to spend time with me (aka complete the honey do list). :)


13) Also in November we will be celebrating Marc's 1st year anniversary as pastor at WABC.


14) Well that is what is happening is this crazy life of mine. I told someone a few weeks ago that this pastor wife stuff should come with a Class 101 book (especially a session on how to balance church life with a personal life). By the way, how is life treating you?

Behind the Scenes

I captured this picture of Marc and Nicki tonight at WABC during our Senior Ministry event. The senior members of WABC were treated to a night of dinner and music. I'm telling you there is nothing like seeing a 65 year old jamming and dancing. In the words of Marc..."Mr. Arthur" (arthritis) wasn't stopping them tonight. I love working behind the scenes at WABC. Tonight we worked the behind the scenes stuff like nobody's business. While everyone else was rocking to the music Marc, Nicki and I got to capture the moment's on film. Marc worked the video camera while Nicki and I took photos of everyone. I have some editing to do, but hopefully I'll have them up in the church gallery by Monday or Tuesday.

Beach Walking

So today Nicki and I started our weekly Saturday morning walk. We went down to the boardwalk and walked 3 1/2 miles. We are only about 20 minutes from the oceanfront, but somehow we never seem to take the time to visit (especially during the summer). Marc is still amazed that we went "all the way down to the beach just to walk". But I told him if I'm going to do this the view at least has to be pretty. LOL!

Last week after the cancer walk we decided we would walk every Saturday morning (weather permitting). Of course my motivation for doing this has a lot to do with the fact that my blood pressure readings were through the roof (150/95) after my last physical. Most of the time I have been able to keep it fairly level, but when I stress I eat unhealthy food and last month during the funeral I ate a lot (well, I ate a lot of stuff that is not good for me....like pork, fried chicken, and chips which are my number one weakness in the food dept.).


I'm determined to get back on track, so the exercise routine has begun (and I'm eating yogurt and unsalted popcorn). For now that means walking, eating healthier, drinking plenty of water, and sticking to my prescribed meds. Hopefully after a while I can add a bit of weightlifting in the mix (walking and weightlifting were the only type of exercise I liked in high school). Nicki keeps trying to convince me to run/jog, but I know that's not going to happen so she will just have to get over it! :) Well, that's my "new" routine.........what do you do to keep in shape?

Sunday Mind Dump (through the eyes of the wife).

1)WABC is celebrating 71 years of ministry this month. We have several speakers coming each Sunday for the next couple of weeks. Needless to say its going to be a long month. Marc has already discussed doing things a little different next year. Right now the majority of our members have reached age 60 and above and the pace of the church as it exist at this moment is getting too much for many of them. Over time we hope to become more intentional and focused in our ministry and the opportunities we offer to our members.


2)We are only in our second year (technically its only our first) so as much as you would like to make changes, thankfully we got advice a long time ago (even before leading WABC was a thought in our mind) that transition takes time and is in know way the same as planting your own church. It is never a good idea to go in and completely wipe out the years of tradition that older churches are use to. I have seen this done and usually what is left behind is a mass of confusion and hurt.


3)Speaking of purpose. I am very excited about our upcoming Wednesday night services. Marc decided that The Purpose Driven Church needed to be discussed not just in our staff meetings but with our congregation as well. I am usually in the back on Wednesday nights taking care of paperwork, but for the next couple of weeks I will be sitting in on the classes. I loved reading the book and after reading it ...... it actually changed my direction/focus in ministry.


4) We had a great time Saturday morning at the Cancer Walk. I love connecting with the women at the church, add in a good cause and I am a happy lady.



5) Marc and I will be attending several banquets this month. One of the events will benefit the Life Enrichment Center in Norfolk that we partnered with for the backpack giveaway. The other is actually a banquet in which we are along with several others will be honored for our contribution to ministry. Can you guess which one I am most looking forward to (keep in mind I prefer being in the shadows)? LOL


6) Preparations have begun for the celebration of our first year anniversary at WABC. The planning committee has been trying very hard to keep me out of the loop. For the most part they are succeeding, which for a person who is usually the one planning......well lets just say, its driving me crazy. I hate being out of the loop when it comes to the behind the scenes stuff!


7) I'm very excited for our Senior Ministry. Next weekend they will be treated to a special night of dinner and music. The music will be provided by some friends of ours who have a gospel quartet. Now they are not the kind of quartet that most of you all may be thinking of. These guys can blow. Even my daughters love their music. So even though none of us have reached the age of a senior citizen, we will be sneaking in to hear them Saturday night. HA


8) One event that I am very excited about attending is the Leadership Conference that will be held at Calvary Revival Church in Norfolk. When Marc and I first returned from overseas we attended Calvary for a while, but eventually ended up at another church to help with their ministry. At the time they were just starting to grow. I remember having to stand in line to get in. They eventually moved to another facility and have expanded even more since then. I love listening to Pastor McBath speak.


9) I did actually take some time out from ministry to spend a little time doing something I really love. Which is creating with my hands. Life got a bit stressful this month and I now realize I have spent very little time doing fun stuff. Add in our canceled vacation and lets just say my body decided to teach me a little lesson (try a bp that was 150/95...not good). After the walk on Saturday Nicki and I made a pack to get out and walk at least once a week. One of our church members heard about my high blood pressure and gave me a disc with exercises on it.


10) I forgot to mention that during the cancer walk we were approached by someone who was doing a podcast about the walk. He asked us to have a representative speak for us and tell them who we were and who we were representing at the walk. You can hear it here. It was really cool and gave us an opportunity to get some free publicity for WABC.

Breast Cancer Walk

We had a great time at the Making Strides for Breast Cancer Walk today. I'm amazed I made it the 3 miles without passing out. After the walk we hit IHOP and then not long after we got home I hit the bed and took a 2 hour nap. I don't think my body liked the idea of getting up at 6 AM! (HA HA) Nicki and I have decided we are going to start walking on the weekends. Let's see how that goes. You can see more pictures of the walk here.